Real with Rue

I saw a tweet recently which said that our twenties are your babies’ years into adulthood, so technically at 23 I am 3 adult years old. What a couple of 3 years it has been, but 23 was definitely more poignant in my personal and financial growth than the others. I thought I would share just a few of the many things I am going to take in 24. 

• Do things you don’t feel qualified for, and feel the fear but do it anyway. If it fails, so flippin what, at least you know you tried it. My dad always says experience and exposure is the best teacher, this is why people who are exposed to different things have different experiences and even do life differently.

• I would rather be single than experience half of love. It sounds like a fairy-tale, but I realised I prefer being single and have my day not being ruined by 7am, than be in a relationship for the sake of it. This sounds like common sense, but it only made sense when I learnt from experience. I am talking about love which is just ‘meh’ and ‘does the ‘job.” I know how I want to be loved because I can give it back and anything less for me, I don’t want it.

• What is mine can miss me if I don’t take the risk, do the work, or act. I see a lot of people say what’s mine won’t miss me, but it actually can. If I want a new opportunity but I’m not going to network events, not applying for jobs, developing my skills, best believe someone else will come and grab that opportunity. I just need to play my part, in order for what is meant for me to reach me.

• Real friends are very important, because when life starts to life, it is the people that come to your mind when you are in a crisis that are your real friends. I had a few breakdowns in 2022, and I have consistently vented to my friends, and their reaction has really shown me how loved I am. They know some of the most personal things about me, and most importantly I feel safe. It doesn’t mean I will aways like their advice or critics, but I know its from a place of love.

• My faith is my crux of my life, and as someone that gets anxious very quickly, I like knowing I am not in control of everything. For me, it provides a resting place.

I don’t even know what twenty-four holds, but I know that I will be reaping all the benefits from the ground work I put in at twenty-three. My goal is to focus on me this year, and I am adamant about that. I have big financial goals to meet and even greater career goals.

I pray God does not put me on his strongest soldier list, because I’ve just come from war at twenty-three. I am not an overnight success, but a small building blocks leading to what success looks like for me.

It’s been real,

Rue