Real with Rue

Till this day...

Growing up as a girl, being weary of your clothes and environment around men was and is the norm. My biggest issue with African culture, (seeping through all cultures) is rooted in the idea that a women should guard her body, to stop a man being tempted. It sounds minor, but when 1/3 of men belief that a women deserves rape if she’s flirting it genuinely disgusts me. I think it’s sad that men only respect women, when they only see her value from their misogynistic perspective, rather than respecting because she’s human.

Taking matters into your own hands:

First time when I heard the murder of Sarah Everard I was not shocked, it was just another reminder that I need to up my own security. The only shocking thing for me, was how he killed her, the complete disrespect for her as a human being. Again, the burden is always on women, to do whatever is legally necessary to protect ourselves.

I just find it funny how…

The one thing that angers me is the justice system, studying law highlighted its faults even more. As someone that has had experience with the criminal justice system, sometimes it appears that your situation is just another case number. There is little consideration of the person and the over whelming emotions. People can think of the crime, but forget that there are people who have to continue living with this.

I feel like many men (Inc. black men) suddenly have trust for the justice system when it comes to women. If you take into consideration that 97% of women, have experienced some form of sexual assault/Indecent behaviour. Now, take into account that only 5.7% of rape cases lead to conviction, (the ones people actually report). If I scream men are trash, this is the root of my chant, because why should being a woman feel like an extreme sport. You know what argument I hate the most, ‘I have sisters,’ well…ask your sister why she doesn’t feel comfortable around some of your male friends.

Its been real,

Rue

ps: R.I.P to Sabina Nessa and Sarah Everard