Real with Rue

I don’t normally do this…

I said I wouldn’t do a summary of things I’ve learnt this year, as I felt like I blogged as events happened. However, I did want to bring some motivation and good vibes, because the year has been like no other. I hope someone reads this and feels inspired after so. I guess I am doing this.  

Mind/Matter

The most important thing in life is how you look at it. Before I started blogging I always expressed how nervous I was of opinions, time and enough ideas. I just came to a point when I had to stop overthinking and realise if not now, when!?

This week, I was reminded myself of the story of Peter in the bible. Jesus asks him to come walk on water with him and he had faith to step out of the boat. 

Although, he started thinking too much and looked at the gust of wind coming towards him and he panicked and started to overthink. As a result, he started to drown as he was no longer focused on one thing, walking towards his goal instead of things surrounding him.

Time waits for no one…

The harsh reality is I used the pandemic as an excuse for most things. This was fine for one week, but not two months! As a living thing, I think what makes you keep going is a purpose and a reason, the fact that your body releases certain hormones when you complete a task is definitely shown this.

Around May, I decided that every morning I wake up, I would make a list of (maximum) 4 tasks, which are detailed of what I should achieve during the day. At the end of the day, I felt so much better than before.

In order to keep going, I had to remind myself that this is my life and I only have one. I can’t live through someone else, it’s not going to make mine better. If you don’t organise and plan your time, life will literally pass you by without even realising it.

Network = Net worth.

Before the pandemic, my dad always told me ‘your company is your future, make sure people add value to your life.’ I really believe this and it has shown me that it is not only important to have friends who are intentional, but also you have similar core believes, for example most of my closest friends we have similar faith and core beliefs.

In a time, which we are really just fighting for our lives, knowing that you mean something to someone beyond what you bring materially to a friendship is much more comforting to me. I think it’s also to recognise the people who encourage you, not even just career wise. 

My lowest points during the pandemic, one of the things that kept me going was my friends. despite the distance I felt weirdly better knowing that I had such an amazing support system which reminded me of how much I was loved, whether I was doing well or not. 

Words mean more:

This year has taught me life is fickle, one minute is not the same as the next, I knew this, but this year I felt it. Therefore, I started making sure I made small incremental but intentional steps, even down to the words I spoke about myself and others.

Once things in your life become intentional, even your words, it really changes your outlook on a lot of things and what you spend your time on.

One thing I stopped doing this year is speaking over my life in such a negative way. My whole degree centres on the importance and power of words, one word can literally change everything. As for 2021, I am holding on to hope, even though I know it will have low points, I’m holding onto the highs being greater.

Its been real,

Rue x